Fuck any black man who has ever disrespected a black woman. Who has ever called a dark-skinned black woman ugly, who has ever made the comment that light skinned black women are more beautiful. Fuck a black man who has ever said he doesn’t date black women because we are too loud, too obnoxious, too ghetto, nappy headed, ashy, ugly and whatever else, and fuck him especially for sharing that with other black men and white women. Fuck black men who don’t speak up for black women when we are being disrespected, counted against, sexualized, abused and left out. Fuck black men who sexualize black women in strip clubs, music videos, movies, pornos and just in everyday life. Fuck all black men who have played a part in the self-hate in black women across the world, for making us feel inadequate and unwanted.
I am clearly still reeling from the news of Serena Williams’ engagement to Alexis Ohanian, the owner of popular news source Reddit.
Honestly, I am devastated by this news, I am hurt and highly disappointed. However, I am not disappointed in Serena as much as I am disappointed in black men.
I am disappointed in black men because Serena Williams embodies perfectly the black woman that black men fantasize about every day. Thick, successful and independent. The only problem is for decades black men have never used Serena Williams as an example of black beauty.
For decades black men and the media have attached Serena Williams’ name to insults such as ugly and too masculine and those are just to give you an idea.
So can we blame Serena for seeking comfort in the arms of a white man? Can we blame Serena Williams if she harbors some type of resentment towards black men for the public shame she has had to endure for all this time? Can we blame her for perpetuating a vicious cycle in the black community of colorism? Can we blame her for possibly fetishizing children of mixed race?
No, we can’t because maybe in her mind she may be setting in motion a chance to shelter her kids from the burden of social abuse she and her sister have faced for decades for not being seen as the standard of beauty in society or in black culture.
There is no way that a black man should not have come in and been Serena Williams’ black knight and I mean that shit. Serena is a gem. Black excellence in human form, when we talk about black girl magic, Serena Williams is the standard. Black men failed her.
You see the problem with black women seeking comfort in the arms of white men is it further perpetuates the “White Savior” complex, a role that white men who date women of color are so comfortable in. In this role, fetishization usually rules the relationship between white men and women of color, her body, her hair, her skin and even the way she speaks. In my opinion, these fetishizations are overlooked because with the internalized self-hate the black woman is nurturing inflicted on her by the same self-hate that is being nurtured by the black man, how could she mind when her white lover refers to her as “black queen,” “chocolate muffin,” or “Hershey Kiss?” It’s because someone is seeing the beauty in her that the black man was supposed to see, nurture and protect. Interracial dating between people of color and white people is already a fetish because it’s referred to as “swirling.”
This is a picture of Jacob Michael Mason, I don’t know why he insist on using his full name but anyways, Jacob Michael Mason is literally king of the “I’m white and I fetishize black women” movement. All of his post are about how soft and beautiful black womens skin is under the sun and their hair and their bodies and its just uncomfortable, but black women love this white man. However, I have scoped his instagram page and twitter and realized that he really means he loves racially ambiguous women. Its just disturbing. I hate him.
And this one too.
KYA SAYS:
BLACK MEN DON’T DETERMINE WHAT BLACK WOMAN IS MORE BEAUTIFUL, ALL BLACK WOMEN ARE BEAUTIFUL.
Black women, the problem is we give black men too much say in beauty standards. Every day we have to deal with hate coming from black men, if I am being completely honest, colorism in the black community is perpetuated by black men. We didn’t start that aggressive dark skinned woman complex about ourselves and we didn’t start that stuck up light skinned complex about ourselves either.
It is time that we take that power back from them, we are not going to be able to cultivate black love in our communities if we don’t start calling out black men for disrespecting our sisters. It is our responsibility to do so.
Stop acting like we have to accept any and all bullshit from black men with no excuse, because we don’t. It is not our job to nurture the self-hate of black men we did not give birth to. So what if that bitch says he doesn’t like black women for whatever reason, it isn’t our job to convince him that he should. For every black man that is out there not dating black women, there are a 100 more black men out there who will worship the ground you walk on. A black man with a thicker beard, a bigger dick and who is willing to rub your feet with coconut oil every night.
And just to be clear, I am not bashing interracial relationships because I do have friends and family who are currently involved in relationships with white people. However, I am speaking from my own experiences with it, at a time in my life, before my self-esteem skyrocketed and allowed me to see how beautiful I am and was a black child and now as a black woman, I too fetishized relationships with white men and mixed children. I just remember saying on multiple occasions how one day I would marry the white president of the United States and live Happily Ever After. Even more recently, I found myself leaning towards entertaining a white man and possibly being open to a relationship with him, and I will tell you what happened, he got too comfortable, he started saying things that made me feel uncomfortable not as a woman, but as a black body period so I had to let that shit go.
I think back to a time when I was in the 5th grade, I had started to get into music heavily and around that same time, 50 Cent was getting big. Get Rich or Die Trying the movie had just come out and was on cable so I was able to watch it constantly, at the same time the Get Rich or Die Trying album had just been released also and I was shook. I was 11 or 12, in the 5th grade and it took me seeing 50 Cent in Get Rich or Die Trying that ultimately had me fantasizing about one day being married to a black man. A black man who was big and strong like 50 Cent, especially the way he was greased up on that album cover.
And say what you all want, he was fine as hell to me. This was the first album I ever owned and the first rap music I ever memorized. So thank you 50 cent for helping me destroy my own fetishizations and bringing me closer to being an unapologetically black woman.
I want to leave a message to black men. Love a black woman, console her, kiss her hair that society calls nappy, kiss her mouth that society calls too slick, kiss her thick thighs, her hardworking hands and feet and just love on her. Black women are a gem and it is no possible way for black women to fight the negativity from the masses without the support of the black man.
Peace, Love and Light to you all. Black Power.
Unapologetically Everything 